The conversation around ending sexual victimization has become polarized. With people on one side calling for war against a culture that allows gender based violence to occur and individuals on the other side suggesting that survivors and feminists have taken it too far, the discourse appears to be black and white. Ending sexual abuse requires a nuanced approach - one where we lean into uncomfortable conversations. I am committed to ending sexual abuse in all forms. In my years as a public rape survivor and a sex crimes policy expert, I have learned one very important lesson.